how to change your mindset

Hi everybody,

I hope you are well and successful. If not, I hope you never settle till you do. We should always try to live our best life possible. I know that sometimes we lose hope and want to stop, but we need to find deep in ourselves the power to get up again and again. We do this for ourselves, for our families, for our friends, and for making this world a better place.

Today, I want to have a little chat about mindset. Hmm, what is mindset, and what for we need it? In my view, it is the way we behave in certain situations. Sometimes, we have good behavior, and sometimes not. Our actions can lead to results that can make us feel good or bad. What is interesting, is that most of our actions are automatic, and we don’t even notice them. This is the result of long-term habits that we have from our childhood or from the events that life has thrown at us. It is important to cultivate a good awareness that must kick in when a bad thought continuously appears in our mind. Let’s call it our limiting belief. Now, I remember a quote on this: “We are the sum of our actions.“ So let’s take good action.

When we notice a limiting belief that stops us from growing, it is a gift. Imagine how it will be if you don’t notice it. You will live all your life like this. Let me give you some examples. Let’s say that you think you can’t manage a certain task at work because you don’t have enough experience, and you are not as smart as your colleagues. Then you can tell yourself: I am confident in myself, I came so far, and I learned so much until now. I can learn this too. I just need to want it and be patient until it happens. I don’t need to compete with my peers, I need to compete with myself and be better every day.

Another example could be: I am too old for this! Then you can say: it is never too late, I have enough time, my experience is a plus, I am never too old for a new goal, I believe in myself!

Another limiting belief could be: I am not worthy! What happened to you in your life must not determine who you are. If someone or some experience made you feel like this, that doesn’t mean you are like this. You can say to yourself: I deserve to be happy, I deserve to be loved, I deserve to be fulfilled, I deserve to have more money! Love yourself as you would love your child or your partner. You are the only constant in your life. Why would you not deserve more?

And so on, the example could continue depending on your limiting beliefs. But what can we do to generate more power to enhance those affirmations that we must tell ourselves? You know, it is not easy to repeat those affirmations when you are in a bad state of mind. They will not have enough power to pull you out of your mind trap. We need to change our focus on a good thing or situation.

Let’s say that you are in a bad mood: depressed, sleepless, and a close one just badly disappoints you. Then, you can focus on a thing or person in your life that you are proud of. Stay in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and really focus on it. Pay attention to what happens to your mind, and notice how you begin to feel. Stay like this for as long as you need. During this action, your body releases certain chemicals that will make you feel better. You can do the same exercise focusing your attention on something you are grateful for or excited about. You can choose anything that will change your mental state for the better.

Now, we have our minds in a better state due to changing our focus. But, what can we do even more to achieve our goals? We can change the way we use our bodies. Stay straight, look up, chest in front, hands on your waist, put a smile on your face, and shout a winning sound as you did when you were a child. Stay like this for a moment. Don’t you feel better now? Don't worry, you'll get better at it as you do it.

So, what have we learned today about mindset? We need to be aware of our limiting beliefs, and when we notice them, we need to tell ourselves positive affirmations about how we can achieve our goals. To further enhance them, we need to focus on something positive in our lives and use power positions like the one described above. Then, we are set to thrive even if life is not always helping us. We need to show up with confidence and fight for our dreams, for our desires.

Until next time, be healthy, be happy, and raise your life, my friend!