How not to rush everything
Hi everybody,
I hope you are well, healthy, and fighting for your dreams. The world needs you at your best. Only then we can change things and make our lives thrive. It is impressive how much a person can change if he puts his mind to it. You need to decide, then commit, and be consistent. In time it will be a part of your identity.
For the ones in need, I wish you all the best, and may God bless you! If you are struggling in your life right now just remember: this shall pass too! We all have bad times in our lives. We must try to take them as lessons and become wiser and stronger. I know is easier to say it than to make it, but what are the options? To become victims, to become depressed, to become bitter? These feelings are bad and they will not raise us from the ground, but keep us there. So keep calm and move on. You can do this, I know it! The storm will pass and the sun will shine again!
Today I want to write some thoughts about this rush in which most of us live. I don’t know how our ancestors felt in their lives, but I like to believe that they were not as hurried as we are. I think technology is good and it can greatly improve our lives if it is mindfully used. But most of the time, if we are not aware technology is a great distraction and a stressor. Due to technology, nowadays information, news, and tasks are reaching us in an instant and can overwhelm us. We have to choose carefully what comes to our minds and then select the important things. If we’re not doing this we lose our authenticity. Our identity will be created by society, by social media, by events our by our inner circle.
This rush that is increasingly driving our lives, is bit by bit affecting our mental and physical health. It is changing our mentality. It is changing who we are. Slow down for a moment and think about what you are doing at this moment. It is really necessary to be done in such a rush? Is it that urgent? Is it something that you need to do or your inner voice is tricking you? You can do the things that matter from a different place. A place more peaceful where you are present, focused and you can clearly see what your best next step is.
I will give you an example of a rushing person and I hope I don’t describe any of you! Although that would not be impossible. I will describe a typical day in the life of such a person. Let’s name him John.
The clock is ringing. John jumps from his bed thinking about a lot of things related to his life and work. Please note that he was already awake before the ring, so he has a little anxiety going on. Without thinking through, John believes that all these things must be done urgently. So his plate is already full with tasks that maybe can be done later in the week or maybe they don't have to be done at all. He is leaving no free space for things that anyway will occur and will stop him from achieving all his tasks. He is speeding through his morning routine with his head full of these self-imposed tasks. He forgets to be present and enjoy the miracle of a new day. John feels that if he’s slowing down the pace he will lose precious time. By the time he’s starting his car to drive his kid to school and then to go to work, he is already in a state of near panic. He has that feeling that he needs to do more, but his energy is already drained up. He believes that he doesn’t do enough, that he is not enough. So all day continues at the same pace with the same not enough feeling. Then because of this, other feelings are starting: irritability, overwhelm, burnout, unloved, unfulfilled, and ultimately depression. At the end of the day when he is in his bed he feels burned out and unfulfilled.
We learned that the reason for John’s rush is due to his mindset. He believes he is not enough. To find this reason is like a miracle because now he can work on reversing that. But not all of us are like John. We need to find the limiting belief that is making us rush through our days. Let’s face it, this is not a good way to live especially if it’s happening every day. We deserve better and we are the only one that can fix this. Of course, we can ask for help from our friends and family, from our therapist, or from anyone else we trust. But in the end, we must make this work for us. You may have this mindset from your childhood or from your life’s events. It’s not important why and where you have it, it’s important how you can get rid of it. Even if you ask yourself why you have it you may never find out. It’s an automatic belief that you have about yourself and it is deeply imprinted in your subconscious.
At the end of this article, I want to ask you to search for what is causing your daily rush. Could be simple cues that are triggering this feeling or it can be due to your mentality. To learn how to change your mentality please read my post on this topic:
https://www.raiseyourlife.org/blog/how-to-set-your-mentality
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Until next time, be healthy, be happy, and raise your life, my friend!